can i ever really...
i've spent the weekend at home alone. i'm one of those people that is, for the most part, very comfortable being alone. i like people. i really do. but something i am working on is being myself, and i have a hard time doing that around other people. hehe. i go into a situation planning on not caring what other people think about me, but it is really the only thing i can think about. so i am currently avoiding other people all together.
okay, maybe that's a little dramatic. i just kind of go in cycles...sometimes i want to have something to do or somewhere to be every day, other times i want to curl up on my bed with a book and not really talk to anyone. i guess i've been thinking about this a lot lately because it is probably annoying for the people that i know. i'm probably a pretty difficult friend to have. low maintenance, which has to be a bonus. but unpredictable. and i start to wonder--can natural loners every really have friends? i mean the kind of friends that stay friends?
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4 comments:
I'll always be your friend. You play a game with me at least once a year - I stay your friend. Sound good?
I sure missed you while I was in Arizona, but suspected you'd enjoy having the house to yourself. It was sure good to get home and see you again - and I'm sure looking forward to our "road trip" to NC. Love you!
You pose a good question JoJo...and I think the answer is Yes. Natural loners can have friends that stay friends; they will be the kind of friends that will love you for you and not if you want to hang out with them all the time. They will understand your desire to be alone sometimes and to go out at other times--as long as you make it clear to them that you're not avoiding THEM, you just feel like chillin' solo.
I am going to recommend a Veggie Tales video that you and LoLo gave to Alex for Christmas: it's the story of the Snoodle and it came to mind when you said: "...not caring about what other people think of me..." This sweet little story sums it up nicely for all of us who carry around what we think people are thinking about us. I invite you to come watch it with me soon!
I love you tons.
I totally understand the dilemma and I know my comment on this post is a little late, but...
I've been through the loner part and I know for a fact it is possible to have good long term friends if they care enough about you and always have your best interest at heart. Mushy sounding - yes. True - YES!
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